I found this post in the finance section of fatwallet forums. Another tale of a man ruining his life to buy a golddigger everything she wants.

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I am wondering if I should talk to my friend about this or just let the train wreck arrive with out saying anything. Honestly I reflect I will keep my mouth shut just because he probably won’t speak to me anymore if I say anything. Basically he has a girlfriend that he is SURE “likes” him. From what I can tell from one of her friends

she has a history of bleeding her partners dry financially then moving on.

Basically he has been with her about 18 months and has gone from about zero dollars in debt to now over 20K in that time and it’s getting added to every month.

He has also gotten a family member to weigh transfer 8K to her credit card because he can’t handle it all. (his family member thinks he is ONLY 8K in debt and is supposedly just helping him pay off the 8K at a “lower rate”, but that 8K isn’t including the 20K he is carrying on top of that)

He has over ten credit cards all with balances plus an auto loan. He has already has late payments on some of the cards and he is paying some on defaulting appeal rates.

He WAS about a year away from getting his degree, but he has postponed that now (aka, dropped out) to work more because his girlfriend is demanding more and more. What made him drop out finally was her demand for him to go out from leaving with his room mate (that paid half the rent on a reasonable priced apartment), and now go in to a higher cost apartment which he pays for in full himself.

He makes about 00 NET PAY a month.

If he stops his spending he can still probably pay off the debt he has, but it’s like he doesn’t see where this is bearing at all.

He is buying her all kinds of crap –

Ipods,

a 0 scanner to scan her photos with!,

laptop computer,

he got her a 0 PDA phone and a contract under HIS name, and is even paying her everyday bills. (food, car repair bills, everything)

She also constantly is on him to take her out to dinner (0 a dinner at a nice place somtimes),

take her to shows,

all kinds of going out crap that he can not afford to keep putting on credit cards.

She does not help him pay a DIME on ANY bill.

In fact, whenever she does get a job she usually only keeps it for a month or so, calls in sick half that time, and pockets all the money her self.

Is there anything anyone has ever learned you can say to someone in this circumstances to wake them up?

I despise to see him throw away his education and be in massive debt because he thinks his girlfriend would never use him for money. I mean it is obvious to my self, his other friends, and some of his family what is going on here. Why isn’t it obvious to him?
Johno: Lol…fantastic mad answer! Well, possibly SOMEONE should try at sitting him down somewhere silent and talking to him about this stuff, hmm? Personally I find that men in these situations don’t listen and instead throw all their sh*t back at you… Like YOUR the problem. Sometimes people have to learn the hard way. Sad but right. Wonder where
are the parents/family/excellent buddies etc… when stuff like this come down?
Tracey: You would be better off to buy a live hand grenade in the weapons street market, pull the pin and sit on that sucker. Far less pain. The problem is, that is what MOST men do as Simps. His is just quicker and more awkward.
justme1: Loll…I like your thought process here. This guy has no constituion and is better off losing his job, so cupcake can prove all of his right friends right when SHE dumps him. Man ruins his credit and financial health in many cases to delight female friend, then female fiend (not a typo) trades up for another sucker. It does not compute! Prostitution is only illegal for the Johns, I guess… *sigh*
And reality is that we are seeing a society bless the violence against men is now blessing the violence and castration of small boys. When we teach males that being hit, humiliated or financially controlled is not abuse and then question them if they are victims of abuse, what do you expect to get? If we tell females that if they volunteered to get drunk and have sex yet years later she regrets it, she was the victim of abuse and questions her if she is the victim of abuse, what do you expect to get?

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Best answer:

Answer by colder_in_minnesota
He is any really insecure, or she is really excellent in bed, or both. This is sad, but there’s really not much you can do about it except lend a sympathetic ear when his world falls apart.

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